If I were home today would be my “weigh in and tell BENew what my pounds and inches are” day.
But I’m not home.
Maybe the extra week before I weigh again will show some real results. I’m starting to feel different. I look in the mirror and my eyes aren’t so sure, but in my heart I KNOW I am different even if the mirror doesn’t SHOW it.
I can’t believe I can walk the whole beach like this. I’ve come so far from the woman who spent all those hours on the couch or in bed this summer. We see lots of cool stuff as we walk.
Today’s expedition included a small shark
And a weird stump that sprayed ocean water as the waves rolled over it. I wish I were an artist and could paint it.
I’m still doing nothing. Not reading, writing, or even watching movies. We sit on the lanai and talk for hours. We walk the beach or swim at the pool.
I lay in the sun in my bikini top.
Bikini top. Still weirded out by buying one and even more by wearing one. It isn’t about showing something off. With my weight and stretch marks that isn’t even possible. It’s about something . . . more. About not hiding. About not holding back because I fear what people think. About being brave enough to do something differently than I did yesterday–or even for most of my life.
So I expose this previously unexposed part of me to the sun, longing for it’s warmth, wanting to be kissed brown even as I fear I will scorch.
I keep cutting back on sunscreen because I’m not even tanning on my tummy, much less burning.
As so passes another day at the beach.
It’s peaceful as night falls here.
We eat healthy
And watch the sunset as we do.
The birds lift their wings to freedom, and I long to follow.
Real Time Update:
The brave thing of this week wasn’t buying clothes but giving them away–three garbage bags of three different sizes. It’s even braver to do so since I’m frustrated by that plateau I mentioned yesterday. But I will NOT return to 190 pounds. Or 183 Or 180. And I will NOT give up on losing another chunk of weight.
Though to be honest I’ve avoided exercise today. It is self-sabotage, this grumpy-I’m-not-going-to-do-it-if-I’m-not-going-to-see-results-attitude. I’m not giving into it long term. But for today . . . I’m nursing my emotion as I try to decide whose advice to follow: eat more, not less, for a short time; add more intensity to exercise; change up exercise patterns; drink more water; eat less; get more fiber; reduce carbs.
But I WON’T give up. Just taking today to process (okay, and to feel sorry for myself, although it’s not making me want to eat, it’s making it hard to force myself to eat.) And when I quit feeling so mad I’ll pray about this, make a decision, and keep on keepin’ on.
What About You?
What would be a freedom choice in your life? How do you process disappointment? Or make good choices when you get conflicting advice?
Tagged: anger, beach, bikini, brave, conflicting advice, confusing, disappointment, doing something differently, freedom, hiding, shark, sunburn, vacation, weight loss journey, what people think
You are doing great Paula, drink more water and shove that attitude out the door hehehe. I am a little confused here. Your still at the beach one minute then your going thru your clothes giving away bags full. Maybe I am not reading between the lines or something. Where are you lol You keep that bikini top as a momentum and when the time comes you buy another one. Keep up the good work. I love your blogs so much!!
God Bless you Roseamry
Sorry about the confusion, Rosemary. I felt the blog would be more helpful to people if it started with day 1 of my journey, so I’m actually writing about what happened to me about two months ago. At the end of every post I do a real time update, which is where I am today. I wanted Day 1 of my blog to release at the same time BeNew became available to the general population, but since I’ve been on the products for almost 3 months now I hope to give the then and now in each post. The main portion of the post is taking from notes I made about my weight loss journey as I lived it two months ago . . . Is that clear as mud?
Rosemary, I tried to explain it in this post, too:http://abenewjourney.com/2013/01/01/how-to-use-this-blog/